Good times

I always wonder how much it takes me to feel the real essence of a good time. Sometimes i find myself totally lost about my expressions. But then I realise that its not with me only, its with everyone when we are actually happy from within, when our heart flies and the world seems to be a palace of dreams where I reside.
This entire set of human expressions are to be cherished. You never know when it would be a history. Perhaps its the only way to live and hope.  Value each and every moment in your life ! Because life is too short too worry! So make every moment a good time.

Give MORE than you CAN --Be Generous

I have been writing about a number of qualities that a person should have. Still pondering on giving more to get more. Today i am posting about the root of connection between us and The Creator, generosity. 

I will be not wrong if I say that there is nothing more soothing for soul to reach for people and support them for a better life. I never felt so happy unlike I felt when became a reason for someone's smile. Tend to give more than you can, is what Khalil Gibran called as generosity. Actually I think generosity is also about giving yourself to those who are around you with all the dedication and love they deserve, do it in the true sense of doing it. Not because they need you, but because you actually need the will of your Creator. We give what we receive. 
Generosity also allow you to re conceal your mistakes. When you commit one, be generous and honest about it and in accepting it. I bet you will never feel that way once you start adopting this habit.

Share your views to the world!  Stop at nothing. Keep giving. 

“You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” 
― Debbie Macomber, One Simple Act: Discovering the Power of Generosity

Simplicity - The Glory!

Simplicity is Nature!

I admire elegance, I have an aesthetic to appreciate glitters and finer things in life.But to me, the actual beauty lies in 'simplicity. Why? Because the actual dignified expression is possible through simplicity. We can only be happy when our lives will shift towards this supreme excellence. Style, luxury, manners and character all has to balanced with simplicity. Or else we will only be creating our lives perplexed and tensed. 

"That's been one of my mantras - focus and simplicity. Simple can be harder than complex: You have to work hard to get your thinking clean to make it simple. But it's worth it in the end because once you get there, you can move mountains. " 

So true isn't it? The extraordinary aspects of great deeds have their basis in simplicity and in fact it is this very quality which make them great! 

"Manifest plainness, embrace simplicity, reduce selfishness, have few desires." - 

Lao Tzu 

LISTEN carefully!

No doubts that silence is the great of source of strength, but listening is a power fool tool as well to posses. The lost habit and hardly considered to learn the skills.

In my observation, there are number of reasons why people don't listen. 

 

1. Lack of patience to concentrate what other people have to say.

2. Superiority complex-one think's that his/her opinion or thoughts are far better than the other person. As somebody has rightly said "Big Ego have little ears". 

3. Habit of arguing rather than listen, discus and solve problems calmly. People sometimes tend to argue much without listening to the whole story.

4. Too much talkative. It's perhaps the most common of reason why people listen less and speak far more.

There can be many more psychological reasons as well why people don't tend to listen the way they should be as its the major problem among many relationships that both or either parties don't concentrate and give sufficient time to listen and ponder over each other's issues. The inability of this lead them to devastating effects, both for the relationship and their personality. It is thus can be understood how important is to develop and nurture this art of listening.

Build patience, improve your ability to concentrate by going through different therapies and exercises,   you can also get some professional help if you want, be generous and positive towards other people thoughts and be respectful to every one's opinion. You will feel so much better, so much fuller by adopting this in your personality, that you will never feel irritated again and bored. 

Thank you for your time :) 

 

Success...Want More?

The term has different meaning to different people. The actual attainment always remain diversified and can be understood in various perspective. As i have observed that success for some people is more than that of a material possessions, it's about self-actualization and self attainment. And i believe truly that this is the only success after all! which lasts till life and can yield to all the success of the mortal world. "Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.”  And there is always one best way to do anything in this world. You just have to find out that in the right context and act rightly and justly up to that extent that synchronize with the situation. And leave the results to Almighty with strong faith, as then He will definitely results the best! If a person builds this strength within oneself, is the true success of that person. 

“Don't spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. ” 

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Forgive & Forget !

Forgiveness --- It is only for the strong ones, to believe, to practice and to remember. As a weak person can never forgive, it is only the characteristic of a strong person! Every person and every event of our lives are actually the part of our experiances which eventually helps us to make ourselves a better human being. So we should actually be thankful for those who gave us certain experiances and learnings in life and not to blame them or hate them. A wise person is always who extracts postivity in EVERY situation of life!
Also, forgiveness is not act as i believe it should be integrated within our attitude! it will help alot. Because you see we all make mistakes, we all learn and we all have troubled situations but that doesn't mean that we are bad and cannot be trusted or let to move on. We all need it. Its an investment for ourselves.
Afterall that if Allah forgives us we must forgive ourselves and others too!

I would love to share my favorite quotation of Mother Teresa,  - the legend  she rightly said:

"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway.
If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway.
If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” ---Mother Teresa

Feel the soul of it and you will be free - spread the fragnance of firgiveness!

Manners Make Man

 

"Politeness is to human nature what warmth is to wax" - Unknown Author

 

Theres only perhaps only one reason why human being has been created as the most pious and sacred of all beings of Almighty, and that lies in the sensitive awareness of the feelings of others which we call as "manners". It is as important for a human being as water to a plant and without which not only our purpose of being dried out but also out souls. It is the greatest of all honors for a human being to be in etiquette. It is the science of living. It embraces everything. It is ethics.

A person who attains and keep trying to strengthen good manners will always have something far better in his personality with those who have the best education. “Etiquette is the fine tunning of education.”

 

It is the most common behavior that to react with the same rudeness when someone treats us un-politely. We almost forget that the thing or behavior we are condemning in others which make us annoyed, is exactly the same which we are also acting upon when being rude. We have to be polite to such people not because they are nice, but because we are!

As one of the greatest victories you can gain over someone is to beat him at politeness.. :)  And trust me on this, sooner or later even the hardest of bevaviors melts down to courtesy and well being only with your patience and politeness.

Patience Empowers

Patience wins the race!

Seemingly hard to learn and achieve the sweetness of patience, we the human beings are created with an impulse that may lead us away from the true postivities, thats what we call ' a trial' - is the life! And like all those actual beautiful things in the world are to be attained with 'patience' and poise. How to do this? Well, impatience has to do with your own perceptions, lacking self-control and unable to recognise the reason of why you are getting impatient? When you get hold of these issues and give yourself some extra time besides inhaling few deep breaths, you will as you have entered into an open field with chirping birds and your free soul just wander around and enjoy every single moment with slow motion! And then and only then you will begin to yield the gifts of patience all through your life, which are enormous, really.
"Patience will achieve more than force" - very well said.

Patience is the art of hoping, and hope stands the world around us. Every noble mind you would study have grown up with things and situations which made them a strong individual with great thinkings and theories that turned the world. How? with patience..with their abilities, with their perseverence, with belief, with confidence and created history!

At the bottom of patience is Heaven.

Self Learning

Why would you even want yourself to become a self-learner?
1. We becomes an independent thinker and learns to accept responsibility for our every act or decision that makes us more responsible and sober towards life and its matter.It help us gain the freedom to learn without restrictions and that is the best source of learning in my experiance ! It make us earn accountability! Moreover, as the human nature drives, intrinsic rewards become the focus, that good feeling inside that comes from within that a job is well done which boosts positivity as theres nothing else soothing than a satisfaction!

Self-learning is largely helpful for students as these qualities which are mentioned are crafted in students growing mind and abilities, their potentials and learning skills hone very well and it helps them to learn the best they can.

Stop spoon feeding yourself or your children! and let explore the world with all by self!! :)

What do you say?

Never Regret!

The greatest risk in life is not taking one. Yes, the past can hurt but the way I see it you can either run from it or learn from it. Take chances... alot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up- and with who, it always ends up just the way it should be. Your mistakes make you who you are... you learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Be you, and be okay with it. It doesn't matter what any other person thinks.

Never regret anything that has happened in your life, it cannot be changed, undone or forgotten so take it as a lesson learned and move on.The trouble with so many of us is that we underestimate the power of simplicity. We have a tendency it seems to over complicate our lives and forget what's important and what's not. We tend to mistake movement for achievement. We tend to focus on activities instead of results. And as the pace of life continues to race along in the outside world, we forget that we have the power to control our lives regardless of what's going on outside.


If you spend your life regretting things in the past, before you know it... you will have wasted your life on regret! Not a good deal at all !

If there is something in life that you are not experiencing and you would really like to, then the only way to get yourself from here to there is to take some kind of action. Even if you start small, by doing something everyday to reach your intended goal, it will eventually snowball into actions that result in experiencing the pleasures you desire.
Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely  how we feel, stop deciding with our minds exactly  what we want our hearts to feel, sometimes we  just have to go with the flow and just enjoy life.You know, things happen to you, and sometimes you don't realize why it happened until much later. But eventually it all makes sense and later

I never regret anything that has happened to me in my life, wether it is making a bad choice, deciding to do something I shouldnt have, saying the wrong thing or not doing something I should have done... because all of these things have given me the knowledge I have today and helped make me who I am today... and that is one thing I will never regret.

Self-Inquiry

As far as i have learned about self-inquiry, it is to discover our self in true sense of realization. Eliminating all the wrong perceptions of oneself, over or under estimations! Clearing your mind with every single thought that may lead to wrong opinion about oneself is the actual essence of self-inquiry. You get to know about the deepest core of your heart.  
It is a complete process, an exercise to build better inner to live a better life ultimately, it consists of simple looking question as to


 who am i ? where am i going? what do i want? and what is my purpose of being ? 
All these perplexed questions are actually hard to find but once you did, you can answer anything in the world !


 "Self-inquiry must be done continuously. It doesn't work if you regard it as a part-time activity. "

The greatest of all inquiries indeed. And most powerful as well. 

Self Efficacy - What do you think of yourself?

It is about the perceived beliefs of people about their potentials to perform to their desired levels that effects their lives. Self-efficacy is that how people feel, think, motivate themselves and behave. Such beliefs produce several diversr effects.

A strong or a positve sense of efficacy boost actualizationt and personal well-being in many ways. People with high confidence in their selves and in their capabilities approach difficult tasks as challenges to be mastered and learned rather than as threats to be avoided. Such an efficacious outlook fosters intrinsic interest and deep interest in activities. They set themselves challenging targets and maintain strong commitment to them. They heighten and sustain their efforts in the face of fiascos. They quickly recover their sense of efficacy after failures or setbacks. They attribute failure to lack of effort or insufficient knowledge and skills which are acquirable. They approach threatening situations with assurance that they can exercise control over them. Such an efficacious outlook produces personal accomplishments, reduces stress and lowers vulnerability to depression. In short they stay positive no matter what the situation is!

In contrast, people who doubt their capabilities run away from difficult tasks or show hesitations and build premonitions which they view as personal threats. They have low aspirations and weak commitment to the goals they choose to pursue. They lack confidence. When faced with difficult tasks, they dwell on their personal incompetancies, on the obstacles they will encounter, and all kinds of adverse outcomes rather than concentrate on how to perform successfully. They slow their efforts and give up quickly in the face of difficulties. Also, they are slow to recover their sense of efficacy following failure or setbacks. Because they view insufficient performance as deficient aptitude it does not require much failure for them to lose faith in their capabilities. They are the victims f depression.

I think this is point in our personalities that has to be dealt accordingly or gradually. There may be steps, procedures or therapies to overcome this obstacle, but i think self-motivation is the best way to fight this cause the best mentor is our ownself! i am doing this...i am feeling already better :) and i think i am privilaged enough to be able to identify my weakness and fight them back!

Use Your Emotional Intelligence

"As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery... we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness."

Emotional intelligence or  EI refers to the characteristics to perceive, control and evaluate emotions. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it as an inborn talent.
It is perhaps the strongest of all abilities a person is gifted. It can be used to not only identify and learn through your observations, but also to make and build stronger relationships.
First, you have to perceive the emotions rightly, understaing non-verbal cues and mood swings all involve perceing the emotions of either oneself or other. Then you have to understand its reasons that what might be causing certain emotions or actions. It is i think the most crucial of all setps as to identify the reason makes the bases of your reactions towards that emotional situation. You have to then manage and look after emotions to stay in the right and positive directions to yield positive outcomes through all this excercise!

I have pondered over these facts and my observations and i have to know that priorily I’ve to strengthened my connection to myself, my body, my life, my world, and you. Then only this intelligence will create its effects! :)

With all these in place, your victory is inevitable, sure and perfected. Bear in mind that the story isn't complete until you win.

Attitudes are contagious. Are yours worth catching?

If you don't think every day is a good day, just try missing one!

Your attitude is very influential in just about everything you do yet we all tend to occasionally overlook this! For the most part people with a positive outlook seem to be more productive and as a result happier as well. Typically when possessing the proper mindset, any set of tasks or goals we undertake are completed with much better results!

I have closely observed attitudes of person according to situations and according to persons as well. And so far i have fathomed the idea that If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. You just have to change the attitude, your inner being and vision to loko at the things and circumstances, i am sure if you WANT to see positive , you will extract from the worst of situations! and i believe this is the only way to live lively and with all potetials in this world. As my only concept above all which always and everywhere present that; just to live in this mortal world with all its mortalities except your deeds which you will eventually take with you. Just concentrate more and more on this statement, tranquility and serenity will come to you.

The responsibility lies on YOU to discover what you can do to initiate the good changes you want! These may involve you as a person or your environment in terms of where these changes are being applied. In either case you as an individual must assure how exactly you can make things better than they are. Identifying the areas you need to ponder on and the actions you need to take to help you flourish and improve as a human being.

Rightlysaid by Winston Churchill, "Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.  "

Be a self-actualized individual

Everyone has a vision or dream they are here to fulfill. Not everyone realizes it!

Self-actualized people are happier, more fulfilled, more ambitious, tend to have better relationships and live life with more “peak experiences” as Abraham Maslow has reffered to i : love, joy, bliss, spiritual connection, creativity. They handle life with more confidence and capability. Every human being has this innate drive and capacity within them to attain greatness, to become more of themselves and realize their unique potential and purpose. Self actialized people have realistic vision of themselves and the world around them.They tend to lack inhibition and are able to enjoy themselves and their lives free of guilt. Other people are treated the same regardless of background, current status, or other socio-economic and cultural factors. They are problem solver, they are content as they enjoy in lone as well as in the company of others. They know the real essence of life and most importantly how to live it fuller. They value other people's feelings and respect their own. Their thoughts are flexible and are not confined by any streaotypical kind of behaviors.

I have learned these characteristics and i continuosly try to implement these within my personality to live a better life and to make a difference for others that i lived at all!

“Let yourself be drawn by the stronger pull of that which you truly love.”
― Rumi

 

Anger Remedy

No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched. When we are angry the body releases stress hormones, such as adrenaline, noradrenaline and cortisol. The heart rate, blood pressure, body temperature and breathing rate increase. Regular episodes of anger can eventually make people ill. The biological implications of anger. Besides, its psychological perils are far greater. It is said that the root of anger is 'fear'. Its true becuase behind every reason of our anger, the crux is always some kind of fear that we feel or our pemonitions lead us towards short temperament that we feel is kind of an exhaustable therapy. However it's not. It just doubles the stress and tension to higher levels. The destructive of all human emotions, i must mention.  Its a brief madness. It destructs
The point is, how to eliminate or to reduce this habbit. As it's a natural emotion and there is not a single person who do not encounter the state of anger and has lost senses. Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one. Many researches and therapies have been proposed in order to control this , but i found one thing very useful. One or two second of silence and hold before you react to any situation which ignites anger in you. That very short period is probably the most difficult to control against the anger burst, but with strong will, you can definitely overcome, and once you did, you will find yourself controlled and relaxed. Just a single wise thought will lead you towards this practice ie. 'don't destruct more!'. Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.

So i believe that anger is energy and strength you can use for powerful action. Extract the force and utilize it for the good. This is the biggest success. To conquere one'self' is the greatest victory of all!

Forward in Faith

God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, or sun without rain, but He did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears, and light for the way. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. Once you choose anything is possible. I believe this is the greatest of all gifts from Almighty. It is a power, a force , an energy which not only heals but strengthen us from ordeals and makes us more stoic. It creates optimism, a tranquility in our body and soul and makes our nerves serene. It yields positive energy within us that enlighten our souls and ultimately when it happens, it transforms us into more subtle, more genial of personalities. May be i think that is why spritual people are calm, silent yet full of expressions and teachings, they have definitely highest levels of hope and faith.

To me , faith is actually something which stops us from worrying. It moves our lives to go on , no matter what the circumstances are. For everyone who has doubts should practice faith, not certainity.

It's worth having. It is inevitable.

When the world says, "Give up,"
Hope whispers, "Try it one more time." :)
 

Self-Esteem Matters!

Self-Esteem Matters!

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection”
― Siddhārtha Gautama

The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself. The etymology of the word esteem comes from the Latin ‘aestimare’, which means ‘to value’, or ‘to estimate’. Thus, self-esteem means the value we set for ourselves. And this value has to be increased only when we start liking ourselves. This is the first and the basic phenomenon through which we can create the respect for ourselves firstly before giving it to the others, because it simply cannot possible that a person who don’t venerate oneself but others.

We have to be positive and sanguine about our self-image. We often seem to remember all the misshapes and keep accounts of the mistakes and failures we make. Why can’t we put things in a more valuable perception and think of the individuality we like in ourselves? And that makes us different from others.  Create a list of reasons why you sincerely like yourself (the more the better). 

Remember, you can never reach to your goals and never do justice with the blessings of human potential we have been bestowed until and unless you don’t value your self truly and positively. This world is full of adversaries and ramifications of challenges and in the middle of all these realities we easily lost our own self, which is the most powerful and of course the precious of all. We have to be confident and strong no matter what the situation is. Just bore in mind that there is nothing more important than your self-esteem. Nothing can alter this for you. No wealth, no object and no body.

The man who does not value himself, cannot value anything or anyone

Reader is a Leader

Reader

Is a Leader

In this age of information and mind-boggling pace, professionals, regardless of their forte, need to be constantly updated about their areas of interest, as well as current affairs. And the much ignored reading habit is possibly the surest way to stay on top of the game.

The guidelines can help you get started:

1.       Younger and would be management trainees of tomorrow should not relax in the knowledge that they have already read all they need to read in college. Reading habits need to be cultivated on a continuous basis. Instead of focusing on fiction, more field-specific reading should be advanced.

2.       For urbanities that have a tough 9 to 5 life, making time to read can be difficult, so extra motivation is needed. This can be achieved by carefully evaluating the ‘pros’ of developing a reading habit and taking it up as consistently as any other routine.

3.       A structured program to achieve reading goals is a good way to get going. There is plenty on this subject available on the internet.

4.       Reading adds to knowledge and enlightenment, which leads to a more confident and productive individual. Sadly, there aren’t many libraries in Pakistan that one could write about. There are, however, plenty of bookstores and weekly bazaars that are great for scavenging reading material. Reading or ordering books online is another option.

5.      Reading is rewarding habit and requires little investment. Working people must integrate it in their day-to-day lives, instead of leaving it as part of their retirement plant.

Build your reading habits gradually but sustain it. Here again self motivation and perseverance is vital. Once you develop this in yourself, you will conquer your potentials to yield out the best. It is fulfilling, enriching and extremely beneficial in all your life aspects. Your confidence will boost up up. Give it a try!

Go Beyond Your Comfort Zone

No matter what goals and dreams you desire, there’s a good chance it’s going to mean reaching beyond what you believe yourself to be capable of.

This fine line between what we think we can achieve and cannot is often referred to ask one’s comfort zone. The comfort zone is our living, work, and social environment that we have grown habituated to. It determines the type of profession we have, the people we relate with and the lifestyle we adopt.

Increasing our awareness to the barriers which keep us within the comfort zone can help us convince this malady. A few of these barriers are:

1. Procrastination: I will try to achieve success someday.
2. Indecision: I don’t know what the right decision to take right now is.
3. Fear of Failure: What if I make changes and they won’t work out.
4. Rationalizing: I am getting a higher salary than my friends, what else do I want.
5. Low Self Respect: I don’t deserve anything better.

Whether it’s giving a report in class, or preparing to make a speech to the board of directors of your company-we all have a point where we begin to doubt what we’re made of. Can we really pull it off, we ask ourselves?

The key is to administer that panic and not allow it to hold us back. Keep in mind the next time you find yourself faced with one of life’s less than comfortable situations that fear is:

False Evidence Appearing Real

Keep that maxim in your wits, and also keep clearly in mind that just beyond your own comfort zone, you can have great achievements.

To revolutionize into a different lifestyle we must realize that all significant and enduring changes occur first in apparition and then they work their way into reality. If we clearly and brilliantly imagine ourselves succeeding by frequent repetitions and emotional crash, we will create a new picture of ourselves.                

Reveal the creative impulse in yourself

I am not necessarily referring to artistic creativity. Many people think that creativity is producing a new creation of some type.

They’re right, that is one type of creativity. The artist, who expresses with painting pictures, molding clay or iron, composing music designing homes, furniture or clothing, is definitely creative. However, that’s only one form of creativity. Not all of us are artists by any stretch of the imagination, but in our own way we are all creative and imaginative. Creativity is an attitude toward life. It is more a matter of improvisation and inspiration than of producing something we can label as "creative." Whenever we view something in a new light or from a different perspective we are being creative.

Several years ago I read about a little boy whose pet frog fell into a hole. His father tried several ways to get the frog out, none successful. He went into the house to think about the problem. Soon the little boy came in with the frog. The father was amazed. He asked the boy what he did. The answer was so very simple that the father missed it. He answered, "I got the hose and filled the hole with water. The frog just floated up." That was creativity.

Looking at creativity in that way I am sure most of you—if not all of you—can recall times when you found a diverse approach and created a solution. It is this kind of creativity that we can use to bring richness and significance to our lives. Look at the routines that you pursue every day, and have been following for years. What would it be like if you revolutionize a few of them?

Changing something as simple as taking a different route to work will open you up to some new vistas. As you begin to look at your life with wonder you will be stunned at how thrilling it can be. Look at your life through the eyes of a child. Become childlike. A child looks at life as an exciting adventure; everything is new and wonderful. I believe that, as adults, we become so involved with our work and responsibilities we forget to take time to even imagine something different.

Creativity is within you, not in things you generate. Using it you can create and celebrate the fullness of your own individual personality. Assure yourself that you will take time to wander your environs and become aware of the beauty that is there. Observe things you never noticed before. As you open yourself to vision this part of your world in a different way, your mind will begin to look for ways to develop your actuality. It is creativity that helps to make the most of our lives, and to live up to our potential.

The world is waiting for you.

Free Fall - Into 'Enlightment'

Discovery of the forgotten self has traditionally been called enlightenment.  What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you. You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.
Knowledge of your own self will ultimately lead you to all the happiness. Most of us are trapped into un-necessary, unrealistic or it would not be wrong if I say self created problems and anxieties, we all try to become what we are not and continuosly struggling for material gain. We even fight inwardly and the most disturbing part is that we don't even realize where we are heading.

We all need to break this and get aware about the real purpose of our existence so that we can make a difference that lived at all! There are number of ways, supports and guidence in form of knowledge and scriptures, just need to ponder and motivate! Start meditiation today. The best way to achieve the free fall and austerity. Make up your mind sincerely. I am into it. Remember, you can truly live a peaceful, blissful, enlightened life. The only thing keeping you from it is your misconception of who you are. If you discover your true nature and learn how to just be, life will be transformed beyond your greatest expectations.

Empathy - connect to others

Empathy connects people together
Empathy heals
Empathy builds trust


Empathy is an important factor in developing compassion. Whenever I meet people I always approach them from the standpoint of the most basic things we have in common. We each have a physical structure, a mind, emotions. We are all born in the same way and we all die. All of us want happiness and do not want to suffer. Looking at others from this standpoint rather than emphasizing secondary differences, allows me to have a feeling that I'm meeting someone just the same as me. I find that relating to others on that level makes it much easier to exchange and communicate with each other. Try to understand the background of people, and to be more honest and open. That can be the most effective means of enhancing communication.

To understand a relationship also and analyze its conflicts, you need to understand the underlying basis of the relationship. A relationship based on genuine affection and caring are more likely to long lasting than those based on superficial characteristics or material desires.

Beautiful people do not just happen.. :)

We are rich!!

You say, 'If I had a little more, I should be very satisfied.' You make a mistake. If you are not content with what you have, you would not be satisfied if it were doubled. 

It is knowing God's plan for your life, having a conviction to live it, and believing that God's peace is greater than the world's problems.  So few people live it. Yet contentment is not something that's found; it is an attitude.We need much less than we think we need.  

What religion says?

Although many Scriptures teach about the dangers of material riches, God's Word does not teach that poverty is God's alternative. God wants us to understand that money is a tool to use in accomplishing His plan through us. If we are to find true contentment we must establish some basic guidelines.

Establish a reasonable standard of living. 
Establish a habit of giving
Establish priorities. 
Develop a thankful attitude
Seek God's will. 
Trust God's promise.

Once the attitude has been modified and all has been transferred to Allah, contentment will be evident.

 

Self Mastery

You will never have a greater or lesser dominion than that over yourself...the height of a man's success is gauged by his self-mastery; the depth of his failure by his self-abandonment. ...And this law is the expression of eternal justice. He who cannot establish dominion over himself will have no dominion over others.” 

It is not possible to control the outside of yourself until you have mastered your breathing space. It is not possible to change anything until you understand the substance you wish to change.” 

 As you practice them you develop awareness and skills to:

* Stop your emotional reactions* Control the thoughts in your mind
* Identify and change core beliefs behind your thoughts and emotions
* Shift your point of view to see your self and others differently
* Dissolve the voice in your head that is critical of your self and others
* Develop respect for your self and for other people
* Gain control over your attention so you can focus on creating love and happiness in your life, and in your relationships

Is this a big list, and perhaps too much to promise? Not if you understand that your thoughts, attitude, emotions, and behavior all propagate from your core beliefs. I have started my practice.

Blessings.

Who are you?

Many times I see people who are stressed out, unhappy, overwhelmed, angry and afraid. I have to ask myself “What isn’t working?” Then I see people who are happy, self-aware, and enjoying their life. I have to ask myself, “What is working?” The interesting thing is, from outer appearances, there is no reason really as to who is happy and who isn’t. 

The one common fact that is found in all of the happy people and lacking in the unhappy people is a sense of self, the acceptance of who they are. The happy ones do not want to be different; they do not want their life to be different. They are enjoying what they have and don’t care about what they don’t have. They understand that they are constantly growing and changing. They are doing the best they can and that is good enough. They do not look for validation outside of themselves and do not care what anybody else thinks about them!

It is only when you have let go of everything in this moment that you realize enlightenment. In the relinquishment of your idea of who you are, what you know and how things are supposed to be, when your self image has been broken, then there is stillness; then automatically unconditional love, peace and bliss shine forth out of every pore of your being and you discover your true nature. And this i call the true success!


It is very rightly said that where you are is the result of all your past decisions. Who you are is the result of the decision you make from one moment to the next. Probably the most valuable asset we have is our smile. When we can smile in the face of challenges and fear, we will always win and be happy. When we can smile through pain and despair, we are the winner.

When you find yourself without an answer, then you are moving in the right direction.


Keep smiling! :)